I have been reading these blog entries about women who have suffered tragically from having to terminate their pregancies. They’re sad and poignant stories and I can’t begin to understand what it must be like to have to make a life-threatening decision. However, the real issue is that people don’t want to take responsibility for their actions. We live in a society that medicates instead of dealing with the root cause of the issue. I have to admit that sometimes there is a gray area when it comes to the life of the baby and the life of the mother. In those extreme situations I can say that women and the doctors should make that decision and the law should allow for these types of situations, but when a girl and guy have sex without using condoms or birth control they know that their may be consequences.
What is interesting to note about our culture is how quickly we are “evolving”. When I was in 8th grade everyone talked about sex, but very few people were actually having it. But now, kids are having sex as soon as they hit puberty. Why not? I mean, no one is saying not to, on the contrary, everything in our culture encourages it.
On this site I found a person saying this about an abstinence video:
The Department of Health and Human Services’ latest abstinence ad commands the viewer to “tell your kids you want them to wait till they’re married to have sex.” That’s the Bush administration for you: Forget about the heaps of data that show a strategy doesn’t work and just keep throwing money at it.
Besides, is it even psychologically healthful to wait until marriage to have sex? The ad might as well say, “Tell your children you want them to be that weird guy in the dorm who takes really long showers.”
If you watch the video, these are young kids who should be waiting! You can’t even vote until you are 18, you can’t buy alcohol until you are 21, in some states you can’t even get a tattoo until you are 18, but sex, pshh, it’s not big deal. Yes, you may get a life threatening disease, sure you might end up with genital herpes for the rest of your life, yes, you may get HPV or Pregnant, but we can deal with all of those things. It might not be pretty, but we can deal with it.
Personally, I’d rather not have my daughter having sex with some boy at 13 or giving oral sex in the back of the bus. The people who cry out, “We have rights! We need to educate our children” are normally ignorant to the reality of what goes on in high schools, junior high and now even 5 and 6th grade.
Recently there was an episode of Private Practice where this 14 year old boy was planning to have sex with his girlfriend and he didn’t know he had AIDS. His parents knew, but they didn’t want to tell him and they hadn’t expected him to and be healthy for as long as he had. The doctor couldn’t tell the parents that the boy wanted to have sex and he couldn’t tell the boy that he had AIDS. Finally, he called the parents into the office and said, “You need to talk to your son about him having HIV.” The parents were irate and stormed out of the office. A couple of days pass and the doctor gets both the parents and the boy in a room and the doctor tells the parents, “Your son wants to start having sex.” The crap hits the fan everyone is upset and later the boy tells the doctor, “I trusted you. Why didn’t you tell me? My girfriend and I had sex last night.”
It’s easy to make bad decisions when the consequences aren’t all that great. Humans seem to think they are immortal and we have such high expectations from life. We expect to get everything we want, even when it might hurt us, or in the case of abortion, an unborn child.