Comments on: Don’t Believe Them… It Sucks Being Gay.

By: eddo

eddo — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 20:25:50 +0000

Exposed on Oprah or not, both of these books are amazing. The writing style is choppy and weird. It doesn’t follow grammatical rules, but the story, even if it is 50% false, there would be enough truth to keep you intrigued.

Some of that stuff in there is just almost impossible to make up. And the second book, which I am sure is more true to life after the first fiasco, is unbelievable as well. I couldn’t put it down. I think I love it because it is real life and you get to see what people can accomplish when they set their mind to it.

By: Me

Me — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 20:23:09 +0000

So, do you believe his “true life stories” are real when he was exposed on Oprah for fabricating the truth?

By: eddo

eddo — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 17:47:48 +0000

One more thing Heather, many people blame our culture and society for people being ashamed about how they feel, but that doesn’t change the fact that some men want to be attracted to women, they want kids, they want the whole package and they are confused. It’s like someone who is born a man and wishes that they were a woman. We allow for a transgender, people will self-mutilate, take hormone pills, whatever it takes to be what they want, so it is unfair to deny them that.

Also, along with your point, what about men and women who are bisexual? What are your views and opinions there? Where is the moral compass? Who draws the line on what is right and what is wrong?

We don’t allow people to smoke marijuana, we force people to wear seatbelts, we police certain self-destructive behaviors but we turn a blind eye to certain behaviors that are just as destructive.

By: eddo

eddo — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 17:43:49 +0000

Actually Heather, it doesn’t mean that. Men have a natural need to be accepted by other men. That need is never filled with sex. Do some research on the subject and you will find that there are men who slept with over 2000 men but always felt unsatisfied. Sex can be an addiction just like drugs.

Also, you are a woman and so maybe you haven’t seen the depths of depravity that is in pornography. Have you seen the movie 8MM with Nicolas Cage? There is such horrific things in that movie and one of the actors says “it doesn’t turn you on but it doesn’t exactly turn you off either does it?”

When you mentor guys that spend thousands a month on pornography and steal credit cards so they can dial 900 numbers then you might understand how sexual addiction can come in many forms.

Do you believe people can’t change their sexual orientation?

By: Heather

Heather — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 16:21:36 +0000

This is my favorite sentence out of all of that: Clients learn how to meet their needs for same-sex nurturance and affirmation without eroticizing the relationship.

Meaning, they are still gay - they have just learned to channel their sexual urges to women. I have friends who identify as gay but are turned on by women and can have sex with them, no problem. But the emotional connection they seek and need are with men.

If you grew up being told by your family, your church, your society that the feelings you have towards women are wrong, perverse, disgusting, an abomination to God, how would you feel?

I find it interesting that you think it’s disgusting and shameful to be attracted to various things/people. Have you thought about why it is you think that?